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Self-assessment

Where are you with your relationships?

Twenty sentences, four minutes. See where you are today on the five skills we train at our evenings: presence, listening, self-expression, curiosity and co-creation. Think of how you really behave with people, not how you would like to: how true is each sentence, from 1 (almost never) to 5 (almost always)? Answer on instinct.

A self-reflection tool built on the five skills of our programme and inspired by research on active listening (Bodie, 2011) and assertiveness (Alberti & Emmons). It is not a validated diagnostic test. The score is there to guide your training, not to label you. Your result isn’t saved: only you see it.

Question 1 of 20: I notice what I feel in my body while I’m talking with someone.
Question 2 of 20: I sum up what I heard and check I got it right.
Question 3 of 20: I say what I feel and think in the first person (“I feel”, “I think”).
Question 4 of 20: I ask questions to understand better, instead of assuming I’ve understood.
Question 5 of 20: I ask for what I need, instead of waiting for others to guess.
Question 6 of 20: While the other person is talking, I’m already preparing my answer.
Question 7 of 20: When a conversation heats up, I can stop for a moment before I answer.
Question 8 of 20: When someone irritates me, I wonder what they’re going through.
Question 9 of 20: When I appreciate something about a person, I tell them, and I’m specific.
Question 10 of 20: When a relationship cools off, I wait for the other person to make a move.
Question 11 of 20: When someone tells me about something important, I put my phone away and turn towards them.
Question 12 of 20: When something isn’t right for me, I keep it in to avoid a conflict.
Question 13 of 20: I let the other person talk without rushing in with advice or solutions.
Question 14 of 20: I can say a clear no without feeling guilty for days.
Question 15 of 20: When I have an idea of what the other person thinks, I take it as true without asking them.
Question 16 of 20: I give feedback starting from the facts and the effect on me, not from judgements about the person.
Question 17 of 20: During conversations my mind is somewhere else.
Question 18 of 20: With people I’ve known for a long time, I still discover new things.
Question 19 of 20: I also pick up what the other person doesn’t say: the tone, the pauses.
Question 20 of 20: After a clash or a misunderstanding, I take the first step to reconnect.
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